Husband

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.

Husbands, Christs calling on you is a significant one. Let us show you how his word can guide you to a Godly marriage. Nothing is more fulfilling in our time here on earth than walking in Gods will in our relationship with our Wife.

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.

Husbands, if you are Christian, I bet you have heard that you are the head of the wife. This is true, and it is a high task and responsibility, but this structure does not tell you how to behave and treat your wife, it just tells you what your job is.

We as husbands are called to love our wives as Christ loved the church, which I can assure you is an order none of us will completely fulfil. Christ died for his church; he gave everything for us. This is the model he gives us to be for our wives.

Ephesians 5: 22-23 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church.
1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Husbands your task is large, sometimes large enough to make me wonder at night whilst I can’t sleep, “Am I even close?

Your Duty

The bible is clear, your wife reports to you, and you report to God. You are responsible for the following,

Your marriage structure
Your marriage hierarchy
The Spiritual leadership of your wife
The Spiritual leadership of your children
The Direction and life goals of your wife and family
Ensuring your wife is receiving correct biblical doctrine
Ensuring your children are receiving correct biblical doctrine
Providing a home to your wife and children
Your wife’s emotional and physical wellbeing.
Providing intimacy to your wife without withholding

The above list is frightening. Any man that claims the above list does not scare him is a far better man than I. Let’s look at 2 verses that further confirm our duty:

Colossians 3:19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
1 Timothy 5:8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

God calls us to our duty to such an extent that if we do not provide, we are worse than the unbeliever! Did you read that? The calling on us to provide for our wife is pertinent to our salvation. A man who doesn’t possess the values of providing for his family likely will not possess the desire to give his heart to Christ.

If you are surprised that this page is not first talking about the wife having to submit, then we’ve done our job. At times when I hear a Christian man speak of his wife not submitting, I then find him scrambling for answers when questioned how he is fulfilling his leadership role. Sure, if the wife does not submit to her husband, the marriage has less chance of success. It is a wonderful thing to have a submissive Goldy wife. If you are blessed enough to find this, the bible says you find a good thing.

Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.

I encourage you to read the wife’s role in marriage page on this site.

The Good News

God is in control! As a husband you are a flawed human, and you do not need to rely on yourself to achieve the Godly marriage. His word gives you everything you need to be who God intended you to be in your marriage. The bible teaches you how to set up your marriage and home, and it gives you the structure that guarantees a peaceful and Godly home.

Now it’s time to head over to our Marriage Doctrine page, as a Christian husband you have a very specific role, and there are important points that you must know and deliver if you are to achieve the Godly Marriage.

Visit Our Marriage Doctrine Page