Give a man a fish, and you’ll feed him for a day, give him an iPhone, and he’ll forget how to treat women in less than a generation!

To all the single women out there, our guess is you are fed up with dating, there are no good men left, everyone wants transactional sex and if you say the wrong thing just once during the first 3 dates you’ll almost certainly be ghosted. Welcome to the new world where relationships are void of almost all emotion and you are now a commodity. A world where “situationships” are the norm, easy to obtain and true intimacy is all but dead.

We Didn’t Know What We Were Ordering!

Firstly, if you haven’t read our article on Feminism check it out here.

https://thegodlymarriage.com.au/important-topic/feminism-what-is-it-good-for/

Feminism, in its primary form “or first wave” was not as evil as its later waves, however it was like an avalanche in perfect conditions, unstoppable. The consequences of this movement are almost totally destructive to committed relationships between man and woman. Now, we are not saying feminism is 100% responsible for what’s going on in the dating world at present, but it has a lot to answer for.

Just like the German officers and soldiers in WWII, the average women during the 1970’s had almost no idea what the movement was likely to do to human relationships in the future. The paradox? we blame men! As the world became “modern” men were just too busy building their empires and seeking casual sex, rather than getting their homes in order, learning a Godly life and holding society to account. Women, unfortunately are now paying the price as they search for a quality mate in a world that is void of quality.

The Unquenchable Desire

Women want a man as a husband, not a boy, a real man is,

• Dependable
• Reliable
• Honest
• Trustworthy
• Strong
• Learned
• Has unwavering convictions
• Emotionally intellectual
• Committed
• A protector
• A genuine Leader

These attributes are what makes a man a good husband, a man who can lead his wife and children to health happiness and prosperity. These attributes are called upon a man in the word of God, they are mandated by Christ, demanded of a man who becomes ultimately responsible for the family unit.

• 1 Timothy 5:8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

Remove God and belief in Christ, does not mean you remove the desire of these things in a husband. Our surveys show this clearly, women want these qualities in a man despite their belief in God, the ultimate “want your cake and eat it” paradox.

Why the Problem Exists

Reason 1: Feminism

At its foundation feminism has taught the male,

• That he is not the leader of his home
• That he is not solely responsible for his home, wife and children
• That he should not use his inner desire to be strong for his family unit
• That he should not be dominant
• That he is not be the provider of the home

How then should men act in this brave new world? How do they be who they were created to be when everything about them is challenged?

Reason 2: The Age of Intimacy Famine

Modern technology has destroyed the human experience, and men who are responsible have just let it happen!

• 93% of men sleep with their phone by their bed
• 71% of men look at their phone in bed rather than talk to their partner
• 55% of women say they are missing out on quality time with their man because of his phone
• 80% of women check their phones before they say good morning to their partner
• 17% of women interrupt sex to check their phone “ummmm what?!”
• 30% of people under the age of 30 now message their partners whilst at home with them, rather than talking about an uncomfortable topic.

How do we expect men to explore and develop their emotional intellect, and offer that to a woman when we are behaving in the above manner as a society.

Reason 3: Transactional Sex, Welcome to the Situationship

The removal of God as a foundation for society has justified anything and everything that feels good.

• The average Millennial man now has 13.4 sexual partners
• The average Millennial woman now has 10.8 sexual partners

Things have deteriorated so much that Gen z’s now have a brand-new label for casual sex, welcome to the Situationship. Basically, it is a relationship that involves,

• no commitment
• no emotional entanglement
• casual sex either exclusive or not
• no relationship requirements of either male or female

The mere fact that this relationship is “on offer” to men amazes us. If men can have what they want, when they want, without any commitment then we should not be surprised that we see a decline in commitment.

Ghosting and the Trust Disaster

Young humans now lack the emotional capacity to endure any type of conflict. This has caused a pandemic far worse than the recent disease. Welcome to the age of Ghosting, where a human can, for any reason whatsoever just simply stop talking to you, and never speak to you again. Some of the reasons we have heard here during our surveys have been,

• Don’t like that the woman on your third date didn’t give you sex? Just ghost them
• Don’t like that the woman you’re in a Situationship with asked to discuss your emotions? Ghost and block them, problem solved “even if you have taken her virginity!”
• Don’t find that women exceptionally attractive on your first date, no problem you know where the block button is on your phone

Let us ask ourselves a couple of honest questions. If you are a genuine woman looking for a husband, and you have been ghosted by over 42% of men you have dated,

• How do you trust a man won’t ghost you now?
• How do you invest time in a man on a date if you know he will likely ghost you?
• How do you say no to sex, knowing that a man will likely ghost you to find sex so easily elsewhere?

Technology and Anxiety – Heading Towards Chaos

Something went seriously wrong in the early 90’s, and it is showing its ugly head in our society now.

If we look at the statistics, we see clearly that the Millennials and Gen z’s are not dealing with their emotions well, at all!

Millennials, and Gen z’s are now depressed, have high anxiety levels, do not cope well with handling their emotions, and to top it all off now resort to self-diagnosis on Tik Tok rather than seeing a health practitioner for advice.

• 73% of Millennials and 90% of Gen z’s experienced psychological or physical symptoms as a result of stress in the last year
• 51% of Millennials and 70% of Gen z’s say that anxiety and depression are significant problems among their peers
• 25% of Millennials report experiencing emotional distress—nearly double the levels reported by older generations

How can a Millennial man today offer a woman a dependable, reliable, strong leader for his wife and children?  The short answer is, he does not have the tools nor desire to do so.

Entitlement – The Final Straw

Marriage and its success is based on investment. The concept of the man loving the woman as himself, and the woman submitting to her man in everything is the foundation of everything in marriage.

The most destructive ingredient to marriage “second only to atheism” is selfishness.

Millennials, and now Gen z’s more often than not think of nothing but themselves. They consider no one in their pursuit of personal happiness.

Women, have you ever been driving home from a date who didn’t show up, or even text to say he wasn’t coming and think — How could he care so little to do that to me?

We fed millennials for years without asking them to work, we gave them everything and anything they wanted. Are we now so surprised that they sit on the coach not working with their hands out for all of their needs? Are we surprised that they disregard anyone they choose at anytime they choose just because it “suits them” ?

Conclusion

We blame men. Not because we don’t find women to be guilty of these offences, but because we believe men are the leaders! They are the responsible humans in marriage, to guide, protect and lead through life’s turmoil. Men should have stood up in the 90’s, and not allowed society to teach their children to behave in such awful ways. Men should have protected their children from greed and entitlement, they didn’t, the social construct of relationships are now failing, and it is the men who are at fault!

Women, even if you are a millennial or Gen z, you deserve a strong man who will work hard and selfless for you. A man who will provide for you and your future children! A man who will reject the social norm of the current generations. Be picky, choose wisely, we do wish you the very best in choosing your husband in one of the most difficult generations of human history.