Sometimes we learn more about a topic, or information hits us differently when we talk about what things are not, as opposed to what they are. Here are some points about what marriage is not.

It is Not Earthly in Origin

On the 6^th day of creation God introduced marriage. Indeed, this was his plan before the foundations of the earth were laid.

• Genesis 1: 27-28 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
• John 1:1 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.
• Mark 10:9 What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.

Marriage is not of earth; it is supernatural in origin and was always part of Gods supreme plan for humans.

It is Not Ever Changing

• Hebrews 13:8 Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and forever.
• Malachi 3:6 For I am the Lord, I change not; therefore ye sons of Jacob are not consumed.

God is unchanging, when he divinely creates, he creates with purpose and to a plan that will not be altered.

It is Not Entered Into by Coercion

• Genesis 24:58 And they called Rebekah, and said unto her, Wilt thou go with this man? And she said, I will go.
• Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

There is a lot of myths built around the concept that women in Christianity cannot choose their husband. Indeed, through old times men took wives as they choose, and this was a result of the culture and time. However even during these times Rebekah was asked if she would marry this man. Today women choose if they accept a man or not as their husband.

It is Not Same Gendered

• Genesis 1:27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

God created man in his image and created female for man as his mate.

• Leviticus 18:22 Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.
• 1 Timothy 1: 9-10 Knowing this, that the law is not made for a righteous man, but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and for sinners, for unholy and profane, for murderers of fathers and murderers of mothers, for manslayers, For whoremongers, for them that defile themselves with mankind, for menstealers, for liars, for perjured persons, and if there be any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine;

This rule applies to both man and woman alike, it is not specific to males as some have suggested,

• Romans 1:26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:

God then declares in both the Old Testament and the New Testament that anyone who defiles themselves “has sex” with the same sex have committed sin.

There is no room for same sex marriage, the bible is explicit and clear about this. Same sex relationships are an abomination to God, and we defile our own bodies when we enter into them.

It is Not Anything Threefold

• Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

There is no such thing as a 3-party marriage. Plural marriage was invented by humans and is a result of sinful desire. Any marriage that has 3 individual humans all involved in sexual intimacy immediately break the bibles black and white teaching on same sex relationship.

This is not to be confused with a man having more than 1 wife, Polygamy is not a sin, and a man that has more than 1 wife has an independent individual marriage with each wife.

It is Not Only Physical

• Mark 10:9 What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.
• Ephesians 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

Marriage is more than just a physical act between two humans, God declares that he hath joined them together! How did he do this? What does this mean? How does Christ save our bodies in the above verse? These facts are supernatural and unexplainable. There is a clear spiritual and supernatural bond between husband and wife.

It is Not Partner Pre Destined

Throughout the entire bible, all 66 books, 1189 chapters, 31102 verses and 783,137 words, across 4096 years of its writing, God gave instruction to two people on who they should marry.

His first command was to Hosea to marry a prostitute as a sign to Israel.

The second time was in Matthew,

• Matthew 1:20 But while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost.

This was a confirmation to Joseph that Mary had not committed fornication, and that he should marry her.

• Hebrews 1:1-2 God, who at sundry times and in divers manners spake in time past unto the fathers by the prophets, Hath in these last days spoken unto us by his Son, whom he hath appointed heir of all things, by whom also he made the worlds;

God only speaks to us through his word, through Christ. He does not audibly communicate with us today. The bible is absent on the topic of who we choose to marry, therefore it is our choice and our choice alone.

It is Not A Democracy

• Ephesians 5:22-23 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

God created a marriage hierarchy. The woman was made for the man, and she submits to him. Decisions are not made in the marriage by a vote, or who is smartest. The husband is to lead the wife and family.

It is Not To Be an Unequal Union

• 2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

God commands that we choose a spouse that is a believer. Marriage to an unbeliever is still marriage, but perilous times are ahead if we choose to not follow this commandment.

Conclusion

God owns marriage, he has clearly defined the parameters of marriage and how to apply it to our lives. Anything performed outside these parameters and what we have created becomes nothing more than an earthly and meaningless man-made sinful institution.